Crafting a Parenting Plan that Works

Posted by Joseph D. Lento | Aug 20, 2019 | 0 Comments

Raising children takes a tremendous amount of patience, time, and dedication. Most couples are thankful that they have each other to lean on when rearing children, especially in the event that serious issues arise. But when things go awry in the relationship, and both parents still want to remain involved in their child's life, parenting must be approached differently. 

Divorce forces parents to identify and protect their own parental interests, instead of thinking of the best interest of the family as a whole. Separate living arrangements and contentious relationships between parents drastically change the dynamics of relationships. This is why a thorough, well-thought-out parenting plan can help parents remain effective through tumultuous times.

Parenting plans are court-ordered agreements created and negotiated by divorcing spouses. Without the help of an attorney, many parents end up drafting a bare-bones parenting plan that causes the children to suffer. Some children ultimately end up missing out on time with either parent, their grandparents, and other extended family. They may also miss out on the medical care they need due to vague provisions or missing details in the parenting plan. 

What Goes Into an Effective Parenting Plan?

In order to create an effective parenting plan, parents must openly discuss the most important facets of their respective parental responsibilities as well as what is in the child's best interest. These plans are extremely detailed and should cover everything from who will be tasked with making primary decisions, to how serious issues should be resolved if they ever arise. Here are some key factors that should be accounted for in your parenting plan:

  • The child's age and maturity
  • Each parent's work schedule
  • The distance between both parent's homes
  • The child's daycare and school schedule
  • The developmental, medical or social needs for each child
  • Holiday traditions as celebrated prior to separation
  • The quantity of care by each parent prior to separation etc.

What Should Your Goals Be?

A thorough parenting plan will include goals that, when achieved, will fulfill the emotional and physical needs of your children as they navigate this new arrangement. Most parents gauge “success” by how smooth day-to-day decisions and interactions are, and how rare instances of frustration and miscommunication become.  In order for a parenting plan to be deemed effective, consider the following four goals:

  1. Maximum time is spent with both parents, as well as extended family
  2. Allow space for adaptability to the parenting plan to suit everybody involved
  3. All milestones include the presence of both parents
  4. Minimize the loss of an already established routine (hobbies, friends, extracurriculars, traditions, etc.)

Creating an effective parenting plan can save you time and money down the line, so it's important that it's done right the first time. If you obtain the help of an attorney, a plan can also spare you time in court.

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Joseph D. Lento

"I pride myself on having heart and driving hard to get results!" Attorney Joseph D. Lento is a veteran of one of the nation's busiest family courts with nearly 20 years' experience passionately helping families. By day, he worked in the trenches of family court, and at night, he studied the law. He helped countless families while working at family court, and he went on to become an attorney, dedicating his law practice to continuing the work he started years earlier. Mr. Lento's experience both behind the scenes and on the front lines allows him to understand a client's family law matter from all angles, and allows him to find and employ the most effective strategies to get favorable outcomes for any client. Joseph D. Lento is licensed in New Jersey and New York, and is admitted pro hac vice as needed nationwide. In the courtroom and in life, attorney Joseph D. Lento stands up when the bell rings! He does not settle for the easiest outcome, and instead prioritizes his clients' needs and protects their interests.


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