Every marriage hits rough patches. And when people don't have the tools to handle life's challenges, frustration builds, tempers flare, and bad decisions follow. That's when divorce starts feeling like the only way out.

Divorcing a regular spouse is hard. Divorcing a domestic abuser? That's a whole different battlefield. You're not just ending a marriage—you're escaping a cycle of control, manipulation, and danger. And that means you need a plan.

The Lento Law Firm Family Law Team can you get out of an abusive marriage with the protection and resources you need. Call us at 888.535.3686or fill out our confidential consultation form to get started.

When Love Turns Dangerous: Recognizing the Faces of Domestic Violence

Falling out of love is one thing. But when it turns into control, fear, and harm, it's no longer just a broken relationship—it's domestic violence. And it can happen to anyone, regardless of gender, age, race, or social status.

Domestic violence includes:

• Physical Abuse –Hitting, grabbing, shoving, spitting, or breaking things to intimidate you. Threats, weapons, and attacks that leave bruises on your skin—or terror in your mind.
• Emotional & Psychological Abuse – Constant insults, manipulation, gaslighting. Being isolated from friends, controlled by jealousy, or made to feel worthless.
• Financial Abuse – Keeping you trapped by cutting off your money, ruining your credit, or sabotaging your job.
• Stalking & Harassment – Unwanted texts, social media messages, relentless tracking, or showing up where you are.

If you're in a dangerous situation, know this: You're not alone. And there's a way out.

If You're in Danger, Leave Now.

If you're in a violent relationship, the priority isn't legal paperwork—it's getting you and your loved ones to safety. Many victims stay silent, terrified that even hinting at leaving will set off their abuser. They wait, hoping things will change. But when domestic violence is in play, waiting can be deadly.

Here's what to do right now: Call 911. If you're questioning whether you should, the answer is yes. Get out. Your safety comes first.

Legal Protections Are in Place—Use Them

Those affected by domestic violence are entitled to file a criminal complaint while simultaneously seeking a Temporary Restraining Order (TRO) for safety. A restraining order legally forces your abuser to stay away—no contact, no calls, no stalking. If they violate the Restraining Order, they get arrested. Courts take this seriously, but you need to take the first step.

• During Court Hours: Go to the Family Division Office of the Superior Court in the county where you live or are staying or, where the domestic violence took place, or where the other person lives.
• When the Court is Closed: Go to the police department where you live, where the domestic violence happened, or where the other person lives.
• Online Forms may also be available.

Temporary Restraining Orders can become permanent with time and evidence. Meanwhile, police and social services can help you find shelter and secure your next move.

In addition, if a parent in a marriage is abusive and there's proof, the court can seriously limit their time with their kids. If the abuse is really bad, they might not get any visitation at all.

The Lento Law Firm Can Help You Find a Safe Way Forward

We protect our clients. If you or a loved one is caught in the grip of domestic violence, the Lento Law Firm Family Law Team is here. Call us at 888.535.3686or fill out our contact us form to get started.