Blog

How to Break the News to Family, Friends, and Employers that Someone Got a Restraining Order Against You

Posted by Joseph D. Lento | Sep 09, 2022 | 0 Comments

When someone takes a restraining order against you, it turns your life upside down. Depending on the order's details, you may have lost access to your home, custody of your children, and are forbidden to contact your former partner–and sometimes their close family members or friends–through any means. These restrictions may last indefinitely. Given these circumstances, keeping the restraining order a secret from those close to you is almost impossible. But what's the best way to tell them? Or break the news to your boss? Here's what you should know.

Be Straight With Family and Friends

In New Jersey, restraining orders are taken very seriously. Although the restraining order is not a crime, if you violate the order, even accidentally, you could be arrested for criminal contempt and jailed. You must refrain from being within the court-mandated distance from the protected person under all circumstances.

Carefully explain these limitations to friends and family and urge them to take the prohibitions seriously; otherwise, they could accidentally land you into legal trouble. For example, if you and the protected person end up at the same family event, you could be arrested even if you weren't aware that they would be there.

When telling family and friends, be prepared to answer their questions. They will likely ask questions such as:

  • Did you abuse the protected person?
  • How long will the order last?
  • Do you now have a criminal record?
  • Can you reconcile with the protected person?
  • Can they contact the person on your behalf?

Have your answer ready in your mind and if you're unsure of a response, be sure to ask your lawyer. It is not appropriate, for example, for you to send a message to the protected party through another person. You should also refrain from answering questions concerning any related criminal matter, such as a domestic violence charge, as your response could compromise your defense.

Consider Whether to Tell Your Employer

Whether to tell your employer about the restraining order may vary depending on your unique circumstances. Again, a restraining order is not a criminal matter. Even jobs that require you to disclose your involvement in criminal cases are very unlikely to require you to inform your boss of a restraining order against you. You may decide to keep quiet if you think they aren't likely to find out, and it wouldn't jeopardize your standing at work, even if they did.

That said, you will need to tell your employer about the order if you work with the protected person. The employer may need to move you to another work area or even reassign you to a different department if working in your regular space violates the order's terms. When informing your boss, tell them only as much as they need to know to make the appropriate arrangements in the workspace. Stay calm during the conversation and reassure them that you intend to fully comply with the order and continue to perform your duties to the best of your ability. Give them no reason to believe that you may become violent, in the workplace or elsewhere.

If you are concerned that your employer may fire you because of the restraining order, you should talk to a lawyer.

Hire a Restraining Order Lawyer in New Jersey

A restraining order can affect your life in ways you have never considered. If someone has petitioned for a restraining order against you, speak to a domestic violence lawyer immediately. You must act quickly to ensure that your rights are protected. Attorney Joseph D. Lento and the Lento Law Firm have years of experience handling domestic violence cases and a strong track record of delivering results. Contact us today for a case consultation at (888) 535-3686.

About the Author

Joseph D. Lento

"I pride myself on having heart and driving hard to get results!" Attorney Joseph D. Lento is a veteran of one of the nation's busiest family courts with nearly 20 years' experience passionately helping families. By day, he worked in the trenches of family court, and at night, he studied the law. He helped countless families while working at family court, and he went on to become an attorney, dedicating his law practice to continuing the work he started years earlier. Mr. Lento's experience both behind the scenes and on the front lines allows him to understand a client's family law matter from all angles, and allows him to find and employ the most effective strategies to get favorable outcomes for any client. Joseph D. Lento is licensed in New Jersey, Pennsylvania, and New York, and is admitted pro hac vice as needed nationwide. In the courtroom and in life, attorney Joseph D. Lento stands up when the bell rings! He does not settle for the easiest outcome, and instead prioritizes his clients' needs and protects their interests.

Comments

There are no comments for this post. Be the first and Add your Comment below.

Leave a Comment

Contact a Family Law Attorney Today!

Slide3.jpg

Attorney Joseph D. Lento has more than a decade of experience practicing Family Law in New Jersey. If you are having any uncertainties about what the future may hold for you and your family, contact our offices today. Family Law Attorney Joseph Lento will go above and beyond the needs for any client and fight for what is fair.

This website was created only for general information purposes. It is not intended to be construed as legal advice for any situation. Only a direct consultation with a licensed Pennsylvania, New Jersey, and New York attorney can provide you with formal legal counsel based on the unique details surrounding your situation. The pages on this website may contain links and contact information for third party organizations - the Lento Law Firm does not necessarily endorse these organizations nor the materials contained on their website. In Pennsylvania, Attorney Joseph D. Lento represents clients throughout Pennsylvania's 67 counties, including, but not limited to Philadelphia, Allegheny, Berks, Bucks, Carbon, Chester, Dauphin, Delaware, Lancaster, Lehigh, Monroe, Montgomery, Northampton, Schuylkill, and York County. In New Jersey, attorney Joseph D. Lento represents clients throughout New Jersey's 21 counties: Atlantic, Bergen, Burlington, Camden, Cape May, Cumberland, Essex, Gloucester, Hudson, Hunterdon, Mercer, Middlesex, Monmouth, Morris, Ocean, Passaic, Salem, Somerset, Sussex, Union, and Warren County, In New York, Attorney Joseph D. Lento represents clients throughout New York's 62 counties. Outside of Pennsylvania, New Jersey, and New York, unless attorney Joseph D. Lento is admitted pro hac vice if needed, his assistance may not constitute legal advice or the practice of law. The decision to hire an attorney in Philadelphia, the Pennsylvania counties, New Jersey, New York, or nationwide should not be made solely on the strength of an advertisement. We invite you to contact the Lento Law Firm directly to inquire about our specific qualifications and experience. Communicating with the Lento Law Firm by email, phone, or fax does not create an attorney-client relationship. The Lento Law Firm will serve as your official legal counsel upon a formal agreement from both parties. Any information sent to the Lento Law Firm before an attorney-client relationship is made is done on a non-confidential basis.

Menu