Putting yourself out there in the modern dating world is anxiety-inducing and nerve-wracking on its own. It's hard going through the process of getting to really know someone and having them get to know you as well.

When you add a restraining order into the mix, you're dealing with a whole new level of challenges you have to deal with. If someone has a restraining against you, the very existence of the order brings an already difficult dating dynamic to a whole new level.

What Is a Restraining Order?

A restraining order, or PFA (“protection from abuse”) order, is an order that provides protective relief to people who are being harmed or in danger of being harmed by someone. The order prevents the respondent (the accused) from getting into contact with or going anywhere near the petitioner (the person who filed).

What if the Restraining Order Against You Is Wrong?

Violating a restraining order can land you in much more serious trouble, so you need to take it very seriously.

Even if you feel that the restraining order you have against you was issued against you incorrectly or it was issued with ill intent, you must obey the rules of the restraining order until you can get legal help. Failure to do so will not help your case, and it will, in fact, make it worse.

Should You Disclose That You Have a Restraining Order Against You?

If you have a restraining order against you, you may be struggling with yourself about whether or not you should tell the person that you're dating. Your first instinct may be to keep it to yourself. You may want to keep it quiet due to the fear that if the person you're dating finds out, they won't pursue a relationship with you: this is the absolute worst thing that you can do.

As difficult as it may be, you should always disclose to your dating partners that you have a restraining order against you. While you may think it makes you look bad, it may actually make things better. Sharing one of the most difficult aspects of your life shows them that you're honest and upfront, making it possible for them to look at you as someone who is trustworthy. If you hide it from them, and they find out - something that's highly likely - it could be interpreted as you neglecting to tell them because the allegations were true. Even if you deny it, you've already set yourself up as being someone who is untruthful.

You should disclose the restraining order against you even if it was based on false allegations or was otherwise incorrectly issued. It exists in the world, and you have to acknowledge it.

Work With an Attorney Who Understands the Nuances Surrounding Restraining Orders

Joseph D. Lento and the experts at the Lento Law Firm have years of experience working with clients who have dealt with or are dealing with restraining orders. Whether you have a restraining order against you or you have one against someone else, you'll need someone to help you navigate the waters so that you can stay on the right side of the law.

Contact us or give us a call at 888-535-3686 today to schedule an evaluation of your case so that you can move forward with your life with the best possible protection.