Tips To Help You Successfully Co-Parent

Posted by Joseph D. Lento | Feb 03, 2020 | 0 Comments

Life after a divorce or separation can be complicated. When you throw children into the equation, emotions are high and the stakes are even higher. In most situations, parents in New Jersey are responsible for working out a co-parenting plan. Developing a plan is an uphill battle for parents in general, let alone for those with a contentious relationship. But what most people don't understand from the beginning is that the key to a harmonious co-parenting relationship is you and your ex-partner's ability to be adaptable.

In this article, the Lento Law Firm will give you some tips to keep in mind to maximize your chances of achieving a successful co-parenting relationship.

Work to maintain clear and concise communication

When you and the other parent aren't seeing eye to eye, the last thing you want to do is have a conversation. When you're upset, your ability to empathize and be agreeable dwindles quickly. But in the midst of a rough patch, swallowing your pride and communicating in spite of the negative feelings you associate with your ex-partner is a huge step in the right direction.

Parents often make the mistake of using their children as messengers, so to speak. But this isn't a fair expectation for your children (especially if they're young), nor is it an efficient way to convey a message to the other parent the way you intend. A consistent means of communication, whether it be by text, on the phone, via skype, or through email, should be established. In circumstances when parents can't manage to be civil enough to do that, family therapy or co-parenting classes are viable options.

Flexibility is a must

Our lives are unpredictable. Perhaps you've developed a schedule that's been followed for some time now, and the other parent proposes a plan that strays from this schedule in a minor fashion. If this plan is in the child's best interest,  being rigid and sticking to the plan isn't necessary. For example, the other parent may have a limited opportunity to take your children to an amusement park on a weekend that your children are supposed to be with you. Even though it may frustrate you to give up your weekend, compromise can alleviate the issues that will undoubtedly arise should you say no. As long as compromise is reciprocal, it can be valuable in maintaining a seamless co-parenting relationship.

Be open to negotiation

In the same vein of flexibility comes negotiation. Parents should be open to renegotiating a child custody plan at certain points. Minor issues can be handled without returning to court, but significant changes like relocation, or a complete redraft of visitation due to unforeseen circumstances, for instance, may be best resolved through a court modification.

Get Started Today

Sharing parenting time is almost always difficult, even for the most amicable co-parents. This is why it's important to seek the advice of an experienced legal professional. Create a solid parenting plan with the help of New Jersey family law attorney Joseph D. Lento. Schedule a consultation today online or by phone at 888-535-3686.

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Joseph D. Lento

"I pride myself on having heart and driving hard to get results!" Attorney Joseph D. Lento is a veteran of one of the nation's busiest family courts with nearly 20 years' experience passionately helping families. By day, he worked in the trenches of family court, and at night, he studied the law. He helped countless families while working at family court, and he went on to become an attorney, dedicating his law practice to continuing the work he started years earlier. Mr. Lento's experience both behind the scenes and on the front lines allows him to understand a client's family law matter from all angles, and allows him to find and employ the most effective strategies to get favorable outcomes for any client. Joseph D. Lento is licensed in New Jersey, Pennsylvania, and New York, and is admitted pro hac vice as needed nationwide. In the courtroom and in life, attorney Joseph D. Lento stands up when the bell rings! He does not settle for the easiest outcome, and instead prioritizes his clients' needs and protects their interests.


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